Pastor Anita Oyakhilome Writes About Abusive Relationships And Marriages
In a post on ON HER BLOG ‘There is always something to be thankful for’
She began with a quote from American actor,
Michael J. Fox “One’s dignity may be assaulted,
vandalized and cruelly mocked, but it can never be
taken away unless it is surrendered.”. See what
she wrote after the cut…
After an abusive relationship or marriage,
there is no doubt you will have feelings of
deep sorrow for a long time, which could
go on for possibly months or even years.
These feelings will come and go periodically
as you reflect and you remember things from the past that would make you feel
You may be inundated with
disappointments, which may lead you to
voice your regrets, especially coming across
certain people or a person. Several
Instances could cause flashbacks and bring
back thoughts of regret such as; signing a contract, making a decision, joining an
organization, trusting people, buying a
property. Also your mind would question
why you hung unto a dead marriage or
stayed in an abusive relationship. Don’t stay
in that condition for too long.
Regrets will only aggravate your feelings.
Forget about the things you cannot change
and focus on being thankful. Don’t put your
life on hold, rather plan what you would
like to accomplish in one week, one month,
three months and in a year’s time.
See the silver lining in the cloud. You may
struggle to find or observe that flicker of
light emerging out of the darkness but give
yourself time to recover from that shocking
hopeless experience, then thank God for
making you strong enough to walk away from the abuse.
The situation might be tough, with
burdensome chains, but you will get better.
You can rise up to the challenge and
improve yourself. Something good will
come out of your situation. You will become
a stronger and more productive person when you learn from your experience and
use your knowledge to improve yourself
for new prospects ahead. “I want my life to
bring comfort to others and I am on that
journey now thankfully.” Every ending is
really a new beginning for beautiful opportunities ahead.