This article was shared on Facebook
page: Christ Embassy.Org Online Missions on
September 4th and attributed to Pastor Chris
Oyakhilome, According to the founding president of Christ Embassy, a Husband does not mean the
male partner in a marriage but rather master. That
the beauty of a woman lies in listening to her
husband and most women have never been
taught by their fathers, hence they think their
husband is another woman. Read below.
Husband does not mean the male partner
in a marriage, husband means master. The
reason for most problems in Christian
marriages is the fact that women refute
God’s definition of marriage and form
theirs. They believe they are equal partners.
If most women had their fathers bold enough to
talk to them, they will be very successful in their
marriage and they will be very happy people. Most
women have never been taught by their parents,
their fathers particularly and that’s their biggest
problem because they don’t know who a man is, they think he is another woman.
In marriage, you have the man who is the head of
that union and because he’s the head of that
union, its important to understand him. You think
he’s the one that needs to understand his wife and
that is where you are wrong. He will eventually but you have to know the type of man you are
married to and his needs.
When you say you are marrying a man, you are
coming under his authority. The Bible says, the
man is the head of the woman (1 Corinthians
11:3) so when you marry him you come under his authority, you are not authority sharers even
though you are both heirs to the kingdom of God.
When you decide not to subject yourself to that
authority, you are a rebel and God is not going to
accept what you are doing because you are not
functioning correctly. Why did God make the woman?
Making woman was not God’s original plan
because after God created Adam and before He
made Eve, He said in Genesis 1:31 “Then God looked over all he had made, and he saw that it
was very good”. God made woman because of
man so woman was not His original idea. This is
Genesis 2:18a “And the Lord God said “for it is not
good for a man to be alone..” The Bible didn’t say “lonely” but “alone”. There is a big difference. Man
wasn’t lonely but alone. Genesis 2:18b “…I will
make him an help meet”. He didn’t say a partner or
a supervisor or a special advisor or someone to tell
him what to do.
I will make him someone to help him. God gave man a responsibility so woman was made to help
man achieve that responsibility. If this is
understood in every home then you won’t have
I tell people that you don’t need a marriage
seminar, you need the Word Seminar. Let me tell you, no husband wants another mother, he has
had one all his life. He doesn’t want an older sister,
he probably had one.
Your secret is in obedience, your secret is in
listening to your husband, your secret is in doing
the things that please him. When you don’t do the things that please him, you take the role of a
mother or of an older sister.
A man loves the one he serves (God) and the one
that serves him (a good wife). He fights the one
that wants to be at the same level with him (a
To be happy in your family and home is the easiest
thing in the world, just take your role. Take your
place. That place that God gave you is a beautiful
place. Its a place of peace. Its a place of love. It’s a
place of excellence.
Every wise person listens to wise voices (advice) but he listens to a wise voice that is presented
Everyone rebels against the voice that is trying to
make a fool out of him. When you want to correct
your husband, don’t lord it over him,present it as a
wise suggestion. Humble yourself and be smart. A wise woman will always be an influence to her
husband, the foolish one will always annoy the
husband, make him mad, make him angry and
when you make him angry, you will be the victim.
Learn to listen to your husband, practice it, tell
yourself that you are going to do it because that is where your beauty is.
Once you stop listening, your beauty evaporates.
You wonder why you are dressing and he can’t
see it, he doesn’t remember your last hair style.
Beauty is in obedience. That’s where the Glory is.”
#Excerpts from Pastor Chris’ Teaching!