Recently, there was this controversy going
on in the social media that a man shouldn’t
marry a woman who doesn’t know how to
cook or a woman who doesn’t pray for an
hour. So, I deem it necessary to clarify the
issue. As the apostle of marriage, it’s my responsibility to clarify the issue to avoid
causing more delayed marriage, separation
and divorce in the world.
This is the will of God concerning the issue: You
must not use cooking as a criterion for choosing
your spouse. Though food is important in life,
cooking must not be used as a criterion for
choosing a spouse. Why? I tell you three reasons.
First, a woman who doesn’t know how to cook
can actually learn how to cook. Second, a woman
can employ the services of a professional cook.
Third, a husband can tolerate if his wife doesn’t
cook very well. Tolerance is important in marriage
because everybody has weaknesses, both husbands and wives. If a woman doesn’t know
how to cook, it should be regarded as a weakness
and the husband has to tolerate in order to be
happy. It’s very wrong for a man to divorce his
wife because she doesn’t know how to cook.
Nobody used cooking as a criterion for choosing a spouse in the Bible. In fact, when Isaac married
Rebekah, he didn’t meet her, it was his servant
that proposed marriage to Rebekah on behalf of
Isaac and paid the bride price even before Isaac
set his eyes on Rebekah. So in Christianity, we
don’t use cooking as a criterion for choosing a spouse.
It’s also important you note that praying for an
hour must not be used as a criterion for choosing
a spouse. There is no scripture that says Christians
must pray for an hour before they become good
Christians. What Jesus Christ asked his disciples
was: why couldn’t they watch with Him for an hour. Watching is different from praying. And
when they failed to watch with him for an hour,
they didn’t cease to be Christians. Even Peter, who
couldn’t watch for an hour became the head of the
disciples. If Peter couldn’t watch for an hour and
still became the head of the disciples, why should we use praying for an hour as a criterion for
choosing a spouse?
Do you know that vain repletion is a sin in
Christianity? Jesus Christ said that we should not
speak much in prayer. In Matthew 6:7-8, the Bible
says that speaking much in prayer is a sin. If you
need something, you should ask your Father what
you need. Just go straight to the point – the Bible says that He already knows what you need, even
before you ask Him. So, if you are not yet married
and you are a man, never you use cooking as a
criterion for choosing your spouse. It’s very
wrong. God will not be happy with you if you do
something like that.
I am speaking to you as the apostle of marriage
that God has sent to correct the wrong doctrines
of marriage in the world. Get married, not because
a woman knows how to cook, but because she is
a good woman. If you marry someone that knows
how to cook and she is not good, what happens to you? Man shall not live by bread alone.
If you are a married man under the sound of my
voice, never you divorce your wife because she
doesn’t know how to cook. You can teach her
how to cook or you tolerate her. Marriage is about
tolerance. And as a husband, it’s important you
note that it’s your responsibility to nourish your wife, tolerate her, forgive her, and take good care
of her. It’s a job you have to do.
God bless you. I love you! Don’t forget: marriage is
beyond cooking; marriage is beyond praying for
an hour. Marriage is an old fashioned institution.
It’s the oldest institution and must be honored.