Do you struggle in your prayer life? I struggle with
the inclusion of prayer in my everyday life.
Honestly, everyone does. And everyone could be
stronger and more diligent in their prayer lives. I
certainly know that I could have a better prayer life.
The first step toward a daily prayer life is simply
doing it! Set your calendar, your phone or your
watch to remind yourself to take a few seconds
throughout the day to talk with God. Developing a
good habit can be difficult, but once it’s in place it
takes root and begins to grow.
Every time you get an email or text that upsets you,
commit yourself to take 30 minutes before
answering. During that break, seek out how God
would want you to respond. What does scripture
say? I know for sure it says “a soft answer turns
Most of us have the same mental struggles with
prayer: not having the time, needing a specific
answer, not applying credit when due or just plain
feeling guilty about asking for something in prayer
or guilty about one’s lack of prayer
Let’s talk about each of these struggles.
“I just don’t have the time,” is an excuse I hear
often. And I’m guilty about using this justification
quite a bit. When you really think about this excuse,
it’s rather comical. How many hours a day do we
spend texting, emailing, and checking Facebook
and Twitter and Instagram? And still we can’t find five minutes to pray?
The best way to find time to pray is to carve out a
few minutes when you won’t even notice it.
Perhaps right when you wake up in the morning or
just before you go to bed. Even while you’re driving
may be a good opportunity to pray; just be sure to
turn the radio off. Take these few minutes to pray for guidance throughout the day (or the next day),
pray for those around you, and pray for those in
Sometimes when we pray, we tend to be in search
of a specific answer to a specific problem. Looking
for a specific answer from a prayer isn’t truly
Biblical. Yes, God can heal, restore, provide, and do
anything He chooses. He is omnipotent and knows
all. But we often miss God’s plan for our lives because we are focused on the answer we want,
NOT the answer He is giving us.
Instead of praying for a particular answer to your
individual problem, try praying for God’s will to be
done. Pray for Him to give you wisdom, to
understand His will, and to abide by and live your
life by His will. Through a different focus on prayer,
you will find the answers to your problems more readily than hoping for answers to be handed to
I struggle — as I am sure many of you do —
specifically with feeling guilty about selfishly
approaching God with my needs. It’s a feeling of,
“Well, God here I am. I’ve got myself in a mess
again, and I need your help cleaning it up.” Or
“God, help me grow my business. God, help this person do the right thing. God, help me have
enough money to pay the bills.” At these times my
prayers seem flippant or insincere because no trust
or belief is infused into my prayers.
So, what does Hebrews 4:16 say about prayer? It
Let us then approach God’s throne of grace with
confidence, so that we may receive mercy and find
grace to help us in our time of need.
Dictionary.com defines confidence as “full trust;
belief in the powers, trustworthiness.”
God wants us to come to Him with FULL TRUST and
belief in HIM that He WILL help us in our time of
need. That He will give us mercy and grace!
WOW! This has become a life verse for me! I’m
striving daily to apply it to my prayer life and to my
daily thought process. God has our backs, and He
wants to help us. But we must be willing to give Him
full control along with full trust. It is only then that
God can start working in our lives.
Finally, some folks may have a difficult time giving
credit where credit is due. Sometimes we thank
friends, family, the boss, the universe or plain dumb
luck. I’m bad about having my prayers answered
and giving myself a mental high-five for the
AMAZING job that I did! That’s rude. And now that I am aware of it, I try to protect against it.
If things seem to be going your way all of a
sudden, then take a step back. Don’t garner all of
the credit just for you or fate, itself. If God answers
your prayers, then take the time to give Him the
proper credit He is due! Praise Him! Worship His
name! You will always reap the benefits.
In closing, there is no magic pill or formula to pray
thoughtfully or meaningfully. God is very clear
about how we are to pray and about the results
that we can expect. I encourage you to develop
your daily prayer life and see what God does for